Humanity Café
It's a café. The rest is on purpose.
"Humanity Café" isn't a slogan we painted on the wall and moved on from. It's a set of decisions about how this place runs — most of them small enough that you'd only notice if you knew to look.
Most cafés are built for people who already have someone to sit with.
Two chairs facing each other. Tables spaced far enough apart that you'd never speak to the next one. A staff member who takes your order and forgets you before your coffee lands.
None of that is anyone's fault. It's just the default. We just decided not to use the default — which is how You N Me' ended up being BC's first Humanity Café.
How it shows up
Nine small decisions that add up.
- 01
Order a Conversation
It's on the menu and it costs nothing. Ask, and Amrin — or whoever's free — comes and sits with you. Talk, vent, cry, celebrate, or just sit with another human being.
How it works - 02
The Kindness Sleeve
Buy a sleeve for any amount and write a message on it for a stranger. Someone having a hard day reads through the wall and chooses the one that speaks to them.
Pay It Forward - 03
The open-to-company marker
A small wooden marker on every table. Turn it over and you're open to being joined. Leave it and nobody will bother you. Both answers are completely normal here.
- 04
A long table, on purpose
One big shared table in the middle of the room. Solo diners tend to end up there, and they tend to end up talking. Sometimes they don't, which is also fine.
- 05
Events with a low bar
Board games. Community lunches. Meetups for people new to the city. Things where turning up alone is the expected way to turn up, not the brave option.
See what's on - 06
We try to remember you
Your name, your usual, the thing you mentioned last week. It sounds small. For someone who hasn't been asked how their week went in a while, it isn't.
- 07
Board games and books
Both are borrowable, both are free, and both give you something to do with your hands while you decide whether you feel like talking.
- 08
Nobody rushes you
You will never be given the bill as a hint. If you've been nursing one chai for two hours, you're doing it right.
- 09
Reasons to leave the house
Half of connection is logistics. It's easier to come to a thing at 7pm on Thursday than to work out how to meet people in general. So we keep putting things on Thursdays.
See what's on
To be clear
What this isn't.
- It isn't therapy, counselling or crisis support. We're café people, not clinicians.
- It isn't a charity, and you're not a case. You're a customer having a coffee.
- It isn't compulsory. Plenty of people come in, get a flat white, say four words and leave happy. That's a completely good visit.
- It isn't a networking event in disguise. Nobody's going to pitch you anything.
The whole idea, in one line.
A café where the coffee is the reason you came, and the fact that somebody knew your name is the reason you came back.
Start here
Order a Conversation. It's free.
The simplest version of the whole idea, and the one most people try first.